Cornerstones of a Strong Relation.

What do you do to keep your relation strong with others. Do you find it hard to cope up with the problems your bond is going through? I know you try to do as best as you can, but, in vain. Well, there are two things which are literally the most essential "ought to have" ( we can say so ) in any bond. Without these, your bond with others is nothing.

So, today let's discuss about these two things which will eventually make your bond reach higher and higher level by time.

                       1. COMMUNICATION.

Okay, how many of you can easily say anything to your loved ones? Or do you remember that time when you had a fight with someone but still kept your feelings and didn't have your heart out? You know what's the biggest problem today? PEOPLE DON'T SPEAK OUT. Like, it hurts me so much to think that how many people would be there who don't speak against how they felt in so and so situations, argument or any other Non peaceful activities. Speak out if something is hurting you. Just tell the other person what is disturbing you how that person has hurt you. People keep things in their heart and yet, they end up making a wrong image of the next person. Which is just so wrong. Why don't you people communicate? Well, I'll tell you the most nonsense reason which many people think is, if they'd tell others about so and so things, they will end up having a fight or a misunderstanding. Like, seriously?

Dude, this is not right. Understand this simple thing, until and unless you don't sit and talk about things or you don't communicate, how do you expect from that opposite person to understand you? Also, you can't blame anyone that this person doesn't understand me, oh well, tell me first what efforts are you putting in making them "understand" what has hurt you or what's disturbing you? Blame game shouldn't be played. Try to communicate, try to open up yourself in front of people to make them understand you better. You felt bad? Tell them, you got hurt because of them? Oh my good Lord, just go and tell them; communicate. I know some people are extremely introvert. They can't speak up for themselves easily. It's fine, take some time, make up your mind that no matter what I won't sacrifice my peace of mind and mental health, I'd rather just get up and tell them what made me feel bad. Guys, communication is the key. ✓

                      2. UNDERSTANDING

2.1) BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARENTS.

I've heard people saying how their parents, friends or lovers, are not so much into understanding their feelings. Okay, let's talk in detail. Let's take our parents first. If you think your parents are not understanding you, it might be wrong sometimes, thus, first YOU try to "understand" the generation gap we have with our parents. Some parents adjust and change by time for their children and society, in short they try to become modern not for themselves but for their children ( appreciate them ).

Talking about those who did not modify themselves by time, well you can't force them to change they've lived half of their life with that mentality only. You can't change it. So just try to understand your parents too. Even, I do think sometimes the same thing that my parents aren't being understanding enough. But tell me, how much are we contributing? A parent can adjust anywhere his/her child want them to, but a child can never. That's the difference.

2.2) BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS.

Talking about friends, I know friendship is a bond full of openness, but, if something is hurting you, let's just say if someone did a prank or said something in a light way but you didn't like it much, damn, why are you quite? Why are you behaving weirdly? Just go and say what thing made you feel bad and never do from next time. What's there to be afraid? Create that bond in which communication must play a major role. Sit and talk about things, once you say them that you don't like it, I bet your friends won't do anything again cause they now know it makes you feel bad. Why do you have to compromise with your mental health by keep thinking about things which hurts you? Go and communicate, tell people what's hurting you. Until and unless you don't speak about your problems, don't ever think of getting solutions for them. Mind you!

2.3) BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR LOVER.

Now, as lovers, communication is something which binds your relationship together. Your partner won't understand until and unless you don't keep your words or feelings in front of her/him. How can you expect understanding in this way? Talk about things which you like, aware them about things which makes you feel bad or hurt you. Communication is just so important in order to make people understand you thoroughly. Without proper communication so many relationships are taking an end. Doesn't matter what could be the possible reason. So, try to communicate with each other more and more and that way you won't be sad about why your partner isn't understandable.

                       CONCLUSION

 

Did you all notice something? No? Let me tell you. These two things are interconnected. That is > communicate > to make people understand. Or vice versa. Like, I can now realize again that how communication is just so important in every damn relation. Don't hide things, it'll harm you more, it will snatch your peace. Instead, try to have a good talk with someone you think can listen to you attentively, without getting bored. Have your heart out. It's okay to be sad sometimes but not every time.

I hope you now know, what two pillars play an important role in any bond between you and your loved ones. I trust and hope that you won't hide anything and will communicate openly without any hesitation.

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