Why do Expectations hurt?

Are you disappointed? Did you expect something from someone and it didn't get fulfilled according to you? Did you get hurt? Well, yes. Expectations does hurt. But why does it hurt? Worry not, let's discuss this in today's blog. Also, I'll throw a light upon some facts on how we can love each other without any expectations.

So, I know many of you keep high expectations from others. At first, when you expect, it makes your heart happy ( temporarily ) but what happens when nothing goes according to what you had thought? You just get hurt. See, a very simple thing. Expecting from others and not getting it as expected is something which disappoints us from the core. But why do we even expect? If you think that it's other person's fault, then no, it's not. You expected something which they can't give, how are they in fault? Why did you keep expectations in the first place? Like, I don't understand why people keep expecting despite of getting hurt so many times. 

Okay, so I understand the ones who are in a relationship. Expectations automatically gets developed when you love someone. But apart from that, people literally throw their expectations on every other human they meet. Like why? Why do you expect? Why aren't you not ready to hear that "no", from someone? For instance, if someone is organizing a party and you expected from that person to invite you, but unfortunately he/she didn't. What do you do? You Cry? You get hurt? I know some people also think to not to see that person's face again. Grow up! This is just a childish behavior. Ok, I know it hurts. But why do you even expect? Learn to sort your things on your own. Expectations lead to Serious disappointment which is not at all healthy.

There are reasons why people are happy out there. Did you see anyone and wondered how come she/he is so happy and cheerful? First thing which they are strictly following is they don't expect anything from anyone. They live happily without expectations. They don't expect in order to get hurt in the end. Understand this simple thing, the more you expect from others, the more you end up being gloomy and disturbed. Never in my life I've blamed people for not fulfilling my expectations, because it's not their fault. It's ours. We expect and get hurt, so just stop blaming people.

Another thing which most of the people do is, they just don't talk about what they are expecting. They are the ones who don't tell anyone about what's going on in their mind. They become silent. According to me they are literally dumb humans. I mean, untill and unless you don't speak up for what you are expecting from so and so person, how's this possible from them to understand you're actually expecting? Makes sense, right? Speak up for what you want, speak up for what you are expecting, tell that human. Stop getting hurt because of expectations. Never blame anyone. Now it's upto you how you make them understand about what you wish for.

HOW WE CAN BE HAPPY WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS?

1. Learn to love yourself first. Expect things from yourself cause you know you could never hurt yourself. Talk to yourself, give yourself the things you're expecting from others. Do this and you won't get hurt ever I bet.

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2. Speak up for the things that's bothering you. Communicate with people, let them know what you want. No human is god, they won't know what's going on in that mind.

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3. Try to engage yourself in other things ( if you got hurt because of expectations). Here I'm not saying to never talk to anyone, try to understand why people are not reaching up to your expectations; maybe you are not open enough? And that way you'll be a lot more Happy.

I really hope you all understood the things I wanted to convey. Stop expecting my beautiful people, there is literally so much we can do for ourselves, why get dependent on others to fulfil our expectations? Always remember, YOU are enough!  ♥

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